Although getting married is an incredible time in life, many brides feel run over by the process. It is normal for a bride to feel energized and elated as well as overwhelmed, irritated, and frustrated. It is rare that brides have a confidential supportive place to bring their concerns.
Every bride wants to have the perfect wedding. Unfortunately, it is really easy to get lost in the details of the big day and to forget the greater purpose
of this special event.
For this reason, I call my work with brides Wedding Presence. When you are entangled by your worries or concerns, it is difficult to enjoy the many steps involved in planning your dream wedding. In turn the “to dos” and the many events of your wedding -- finding your dress, attending a shower in your honor, or planning a delicious menu -- may begin to feel stressful and uncomfortable.
Taking an objective and compassionate look at the things that may be inhibiting you from feeling present -- clear, calm, balance and joyful -- can be incredibly useful. I will help you develop strategies to manage your stress so that you can respond instead of react to the challenges that come up along the way. I will also provide you with the chance to find new ways of thinking and feeling that will radically alter your experience of the wedding process. When you open to the incredible experiences and people all around you during this process, you will
be able to see, sense, and realize new possibilities in yourself, in your partner, in our wedding, and your family.
This is an opportunity for you to activate your inner strength and stability so that you can approach the wedding and all of its many unknowns with confidence and clarity.
The wedding process is also stressful for engaged couples. Brides and
Grooms may end up feeling disconnected and lost when faced with wedding
planning, conflicting needs/ideas, and the family drama that tends to
erupt before and after the wedding. In times of transition and stress,
couples psychotherapy is a natural response to the every day challenges
of being in a relationship. Increasing a couple’s understanding of the
internal and external dynamics that are amplified during the process can
significantly alter how they feel about marriage and each other. In a
confidential supportive environment, I help couples take a moment to
pause and come back to what is most important to them about the wedding
process and their relationship.
POST WEDDING BLUES
Women often feel low after their big day. Brides go from being a
“princess” to being “normal again.” The miss the excitement, the
planning, and the details of organizing the “big day.” Men on the other
hand, are often excited by the cleared schedule and ability to focus on
other things in life.
Many brides do not have a confidential and supportive place to discuss
this roller coaster of emotions. The low can last a few months and
working with a psychotherapist therapist during this time can be very
helpful to build new interests and passions that will foster confidence,
compassion, and connection. Taking a moment to pause and find clarity of
mind, emotional stability, and balance can make a significant difference
as the low slowly lifts.